Frustration but then maybe a blessing

Yesterday we did a SST for the third time for Youngest. My hope was to hear of some curriculum that would work for Youngest. Some suggestions to guide us. Instead I heard "Perhaps (Youngest) would be better served in your local public school." "Perhaps you are jumping from one curriculum to another too fast for her." "All I am hearing is what she can't do. Are you saying this around her?" One hour and ten minutes later, I had stated that I disagreed with their plan but I would do their plan. Knowing full well that we were getting pushed off till next school year. Today I spoke with our local school district's special education director and was told that we didn't have to wait that long. That I could write a letter asking for a psychoeducation assessment now and why. "It starts the clock" and they have to respond. The respond could be yes or no on doing it. Do I want to do this? Should I do this? Just not sure!